...today I came across this post through another friends blog. I can't really put into words how much I love my boys and wouldn't change a thing. And someone that only has a girl(s) really can't understand the thoughts that go through the mind of a mother of all boys. So, with that said here were my comments back to Gretas post to hopefully give her a little encouragement thru cyberspace...
"I now have 3 boys and can empathize 100% with your feelings. I cried when I found out the 2nd and 3rd were boys. It makes it so much harder too for me, when other people make comments like 'oh boys are so wild and crazy'. or 'I love when girls just sit on your lap and will read a book'. Comments like that hurt. They don't realize how sad I am that I can't do hair everyday with bows, or dress them in such cute fashionable clothes. I love my boys and I have great boys. Yes they are active and full of life, but the love that is between a son and mom is wonderful! Esp. the older they get. My oldest is almost 11 and tells me now, almost on a nightly basis that I am the best! Boys also don't need/want 'things' to help their self-esteem (bows, shoes, clothes, etc.) I agree with Haak, in that boys let go of things with friends so easily and are pretty free spirited. Hang in there, and don't feel bad at all about how you are feeling! thanks for sharing!"
and I have to add that as I am sitting at my computer, hanging on the wall above me is my bridal portrait. Austin sat on my lap and said i look so beautiful and small in that picture! And that I look like a princess! Thank you Austin (4 this month)!
And when I look into Cameron's (7) gentle, big brown eyes I know I was definately blessed with these amazing young men for a certain reason.
so I ask myself am I being superficial in thinking that putting bows in a baby girls hair and having dresses and frilly socks to dress her in is all the joy there is to having a girl? I honestly don't think so. It's got to be more than that or we as women wouldn't want a girl so much.
My words cannot really explain my thought process, but in no means are they to offend anyone with sweet little girls! I sat in a camp meeting last night and admired the young mom holding her precious new baby girl. So much fun!
"I now have 3 boys and can empathize 100% with your feelings. I cried when I found out the 2nd and 3rd were boys. It makes it so much harder too for me, when other people make comments like 'oh boys are so wild and crazy'. or 'I love when girls just sit on your lap and will read a book'. Comments like that hurt. They don't realize how sad I am that I can't do hair everyday with bows, or dress them in such cute fashionable clothes. I love my boys and I have great boys. Yes they are active and full of life, but the love that is between a son and mom is wonderful! Esp. the older they get. My oldest is almost 11 and tells me now, almost on a nightly basis that I am the best! Boys also don't need/want 'things' to help their self-esteem (bows, shoes, clothes, etc.) I agree with Haak, in that boys let go of things with friends so easily and are pretty free spirited. Hang in there, and don't feel bad at all about how you are feeling! thanks for sharing!"
and I have to add that as I am sitting at my computer, hanging on the wall above me is my bridal portrait. Austin sat on my lap and said i look so beautiful and small in that picture! And that I look like a princess! Thank you Austin (4 this month)!
And when I look into Cameron's (7) gentle, big brown eyes I know I was definately blessed with these amazing young men for a certain reason.
so I ask myself am I being superficial in thinking that putting bows in a baby girls hair and having dresses and frilly socks to dress her in is all the joy there is to having a girl? I honestly don't think so. It's got to be more than that or we as women wouldn't want a girl so much.
My words cannot really explain my thought process, but in no means are they to offend anyone with sweet little girls! I sat in a camp meeting last night and admired the young mom holding her precious new baby girl. So much fun!
5 comments:
Encourage you did! Thank you. Your family is beautiful. And I agree, there is something special shared between a mother and her son. I love the "I love you mommy" and the little boy hugs and kisses. I love when they slip their hands in mine and look up at me with their beautiful smiles. It makes my heart melt every time.
I always have to remind myself that there are women that have a family of all girls and are longing for the exact opposite...a boy.
Thank you for sharing. I appreciate hearing your heart and honesty through it.
I loved reading this. And I love your boys! I'm glad you wrote what you did!
thank you for sharing an honest conversation. Perspective helps us grow.
The Peterson boys are nothing short of awesome. Each of them are such an amazing and different mesh of you and your husband.
I can't help but think about how one of my students once showed me a picture of his family --six smiling strapping boys. Tiny Mom was in the middle -obviously in charge and the center of their universe. First I imagined the food bill --yikes!-- and then I could picture those six priesthood holders going out into the world and the good they were going to do.
Mindy i really don't think it's all about bows and frilly stuff. I as you know don't have girls but I wish I just had one and it has nothing to do with being able to dress her up. I want to be able to talk to her when she gets older. I want to have girls night out with her and be able to have the experiences with her that I never had with my mother. I'm not saying I can't have those experiences with my boys but that's why I would want a girl. Women need those kinds of bonds with other women. It comes down to friendships and being able to understand what we are going through men just will never fully understand pregnancy pains, menstral pains,& hormones. As women we crave the associations we have with other women. But to those who will never have a girl they will always always have wonderful daughter in laws whom they can spend time with in other ways.And wonderful friends to interact with. It's not about spending more time with a girl it's just a different kind of time. I love my boys and you are right they are sweet in ways that girls can not be at all. Don't ever let anyone tell you that you are less of a mother or are missing something though because you don't have a girl. The lord blessed you with boys because he knew you, not because what some people think was bad luck. I am truly blessed to have 2 boys and I love them dearly. Yes they are rambunctious but I wouldn't have it any other way. The lord knew what I needed and he gave that to me and I am truly thankful for that.
Baby,
Your blog brought tears to my eyes. There is no doubt in my mind why you are these "angel" boys mom. You love to do all the stuff they do and you are so loving, giving, and encouraging. I just wish I was as good of mom as you are, when I was raising you. But that's what Motherhood is all about. We make mistakes and then we pray our children will learn from us and not make the same ones with their families. I am soooooooo Proud of you and Chris and I don't ever want you to doubt yourself as a mother. You are such a great example to me and others.
Love, Mom
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